We are all born with a default configuration. Or maybe not
born, we are born as originals. But get booted with the default configuration
just when we are around 3-4 years and start going to school. We have to study
well (textbook knowledge of course but that is a whole different topic of
discussion), get good grades, choose a lucrative career (doctor and engineer
being the top choices), get a job, get married, have a kid, have a 2nd
kid, work your ass off for few more years (in the meanwhile installing default
configuration in your kids – might be a upgraded version but still a default
configuration), retire, marry off your kids, play with their kids and sit in
your rocking chair while waiting for system to shutdown.
But what if you DO NOT want to get married or maybe you do
not want to become an ENGINEER or a DOCTOR or KIDS!! – No Ways. Well you will
not have it easy. That’s a downgrade over your configuration. Maybe you are not
good enough to find a suitable match? Rejected by a guy? Too ambitious to give
time to marriage or kids? Not able to have kids? Not good enough to become a
DOCTOR? These are the voices of the hundreds of people that surround us in the
so-called society that we live in and then over time the voices start to
resonate in your head and then they become real like they are your own. Self-doubt
creeps in and feeds on your happiness, which was not your choice when you
decided to deviate from the default configuration.
You wanted to make a name for yourself in the corporate world
and getting married was the last item on your agenda. You loved to sing and
dance and enact and since you remember wanted to be an actor. You loved to solo-travel
and settling with a family was the last destination on your itinerary. You made
those conscious choices to shape your life the way you wanted it to be. Or
maybe you did not plan for it but ended up here. Is it so bad? It is not the
default for sure which makes it not normal. But who said normal is good. We
have always been asked to stand out, do extra ordinary things, be remembered
for something – something YOU.
Now is the time to embrace it, embrace the unique YOU and
YOUR CHOICES. Life is about experiences - good and bad, joy & happiness, having
that heart paced up, smiling and shedding some tears, celebrations, adventures,
excitement for all the firsts, imagining, breathing and living. Can be on your
journey to Mount Tibidabo or tossing your child up and catching mid-air. Can be
sharing new experiences with your travel mates or reliving old ones with your
loved ones. Can be the thrill of a one-night stand or the cozy comfort of a
spouse / equivalent.
Just remember it is not a downgrade. If it is not a default,
it is always an upgrade. Because you chose it to be so.
